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How To Be An Adult In Love
David Richo, Ph.D., Psychotherapist and Author of 15 previous books
Original Date: Thursday, October 24, 2013


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We were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our genetic code. Itís nothing other than the purpose of our lives—but knowing that doesnít make it easy to do. We may find it a challenge to love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others. Weíre often afraid of getting hurt. It is also sometimes scary for us to share love with those around us—and love that isnít shared leaves us feeling flat and unfulfilled. David Richo provides the tools here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then showing how we can learn to open to love others. The first challenge is that we have a hard time letting love in: recognizing it, accepting it from others. Weíre afraid of it, of getting hurt. The second, related problem is that weíre unable to share love with those around us—and love that isnít shared isnít truly love. The first step to learning to love and be loved, according to Richoís model, is to identify the different levels of love so that you can hit each one separately.

David Richo, PhD, is a psychotherapist, teacher, writer, and workshop leader whose work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness and loving-kindness in personal growth and emotional well-being. He is the author of numerous books, including How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.


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